What to Do When Your Candidate Loses

I often have interesting discussions with my eight-year-old son in the car on the way to school in the morning, and today was no different.  Sometimes I leave the radio off on purpose, because I find that drive-time is good connection time.  But sometimes, we’ll listen to music or the news.  Today, we were listening to election coverage, and he asked me what I thought would happen if a particular candidate won.  I told him the truth.  I told him that it would be a disaster for our country and maybe the world, but that we didn’t need to be anxious about it.

Then, he asked me a follow-up question that got my attention.  Please note:  I have never prompted this notion in his mind.  In fact, I have never said anything of the kind.  He may have heard this from other people in his life, but never from my wife or me.  He said to me, “Would we move away?”  Interestingly, I’ve heard this response expressed on numerous occasions, from both sides of the political spectrum. It seems to be a more and more common reaction after elections. I understand. I myself have felt this way on occasion, and so I thought carefully before I responded. “No. If he is elected, then we begin to pray for that person.”

Now, I’m not trying to be sanctimonious, or to appear holier-than-thou. Believe me, the thought of doing this turns my stomach on occasion. Rather, I’m trying to teach my son AND myself how to respond to leaders in my country with whom I disagree, who stand for things that I am against. What should be my response? To pray for them. Why should that be my response? Four reasons.

1) Because that is what the Bible tells us to do.  I hate to say the most obvious one first, and if you’re not a Christian, then feel free to jump to the next point.  It seems obvious to me, but the problem is that we don’t respond this way.  What I have seen for years is the exact opposite of this approach.  We don’t pray for our leaders, at least, not the ones that we disagree with.  What do we do?  We try to build a little coalition against them in our circle of influence.  We denigrate them in our conversations.  We try to dig the ground out from underneath them with our friends.  We post silly and wildly unfounded articles on Facebook. This isn’t what Paul had in mind when he said that “supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks be made for all men, for kings and all who are in authority.”  This isn’t the people that we were meant to be in the world.

2) Because I recognize something in myself.  I find in myself the capacity to hate someone that I disagree with and who disagrees with me.  I’ve been feeling quite a lot of that lately, and it has caused me to stop and examine myself.  Why should hate be building in me whenever I think of this person?  Is this really the man that I want to be?  Do I want to give them that kind of power over me?  Sometimes, in the process, I read articles about people that I want to emulate, people like Bono, who are able to reach out to people that they wildly disagree with and find some common ground in order to get something good done.  I want to be that way.  It takes some honesty to recognize your capacity to hate.  I ask myself, do I really want to feed that impulse, or do I want to fight it?  I’m not talking about hating things that they stand for—I am talking about hating the person. Hating injustice makes us stronger, but hating a person decimates our souls.  Listen, you can’t hate someone and pray FOR them on a regular basis.  It is an impossibility.

3) Because I believe that prayer changes things.  Again, if you’re not a Christian, then you can skip over this point.  But I ask you, do you believe that prayer really changes things or not?  If you believe in the power of prayer at all, then seriously, I would think that prayer would be the most powerful thing that you could do in the event your candidate loses, far more powerful than threatening to move to another country.  If you don’t believe in the power of prayer to change things, than at least you should recognize the power of prayer to change YOU.  If that describes you, then please refer back to point #2.

4) Because it is our best hope for change.  Let me ask you an even more pointed question.  What would our country look today if all the people who didn’t vote for Obama had decided to pray for him rather than hate him?  Instead of trying to stir up birther controversy, or post doctored photos of him not putting his heart over his heart at the pledge of allegiance, or trying to say that he was lying about his faith, what if all those people had begun to pray for him?  If you are someone who truly believes in the power of prayer, why would you not do that?

Look, I’m not saying that you don’t fight for what is right.  I’m not saying that you don’t publicly stand against what is wrong.  I’m not saying that you don’t call out evil and injustice wherever you see it.  But if you decide to take that course with regards to one of our leaders, then I am saying that there are some legitimate reasons to consider another course: you should begin to pray for them too.

I am mindful, in this election, of Dietrich Bonhoeffer, and the stance that he took against Hitler.  He was a godly man, but he believed so strongly that Hitler was in the wrong, that he participated in a plot to take his life, and eventually sacrificed his own life. He never moved away from Germany, but chose a different course. Honestly, I have no idea whether Bonhoeffer prayed for Hitler, and as I consider these words, the thought alone turns my stomach. I have no doubt, however, that he prayed for his enemies. In his book Life Together, he penned these words:

“I can no longer condemn or hate a brother for whom I pray, no matter how much trouble he causes me. His face…is transformed through intercession into the countenance of a brother for whom Christ died.”

What do you do when your candidate doesn’t win? Clearly you have a choice. For myself, my family and my church, I recommend that we pray for them.

Daniel Radmacher © 2016

1 Comment

  1. Carey · May 5, 2016 Reply

    This was very nicely written on the struggle 21st century American Christian faces. What a great struggle we are privileged to have wouldn’t you agree? I can tell you that I did not vote for Obama because I do not believe his policies nor core beliefs of direction are in line with the primary function of the job. I want to think the best of Obama’s intentions and that he is just doing what he things is best. He has no evil intent or does any of the other political folks.
    That being said, I pray for him and his family all of the time. I pray for him to have wisdom, to have good leadership around him to advise him, I ask for him and the family to be protected and that his heart would grow closer to the Lord. I believe the Lord will answer my prayers according to his own will and that is not for me to be concerned with because I’ve only been asked to pray. My personal beliefs and what I teach when mentoring others is to always keep in mind that while we are in this life we are just passing through. We are waiting at the bus stop of life. We are called to be known for our love for one another not which person we voted for. We will go to heaven being commended for our maturity in growing in the fruit of love. Thanks for listening. Keep up the good posts.

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